Theory of Mind

Theory of Mind (ToM) Def: Refers to an individual human’s concept that other’s have minds and accordingly how to interact with other minds.

Origin: ToM is an inevitable evolutionary effect of being a highly cognitive social organism with relatively sophisticated intersubjective communication and cooperation between individuals. Further enhanced with evolution of linguistic complexity.

ToM is acquired latently through natural socialization and is developed further depending on individual personality and education.
Developmental psychology theory directly links ToM onset to linguistic onset around 3 years old. This is shown in lab when toddlers demonstrate that someone doesn’t know what they know about a hidden toy if they leave the room when it’s hidden.

Degree and Variance of Quality: ToM can be so limited it’s pathological or so sophisticated it can give great power for influence, leadership, manipulation, or therapy, and the like. Developmental disorders such as those on the Down Syndrome Spectrum or linguistic or socialization abnormalities are common causes for a “weak” theory of mind. “Alternative” ToM would occur with psycho- and sociopathic individuals, and “advanced” ToM in trained* and/or highly empathetic individuals.

It also does not stand alone but has interrelationships with other brain regions and cognitive faculties. If you look more it is even reflexive in many ways, which makes sense because as you ponder and study the minds of others your mind and it’s place and potential will also be addressed.

Regardless of any of the myriad rewards and benefits to investing in your ToM, it’s a healthy and engaging way to experience your social world as well as mature into an outstanding human. ToM development can only improve your relationships and reduce your social anxiety, along with eliminate prejudices and conceit of others — Or just about any negative thoughts or feelings that are due to a lack of understanding, confused understanding, or avoidance of understanding.
Theory of mind is a social tool as well as an intellectual asset and a developed ToM is a life advantage.

Coming Soon is “The Problem of Other Minds”, a philosophical twist on ToM!

*How to be a pro-grade mind theorist:
Study: Broadly, social and linguistic anthropology, social and cognitive psychology. More specifically, cultural relativism, fundamental attribution error, mature of human experience, cognition/neuroscience of attention, perception, language, memory.
Practice: listen and ask, let other’s guide discourse and practice staying on there topic and offer your own only when asked to, think openly and nonjudgementally so you can experience as many types of people as you can, be observant of context and how people are reactive and responsive to it, note how people perceive their behavior as independent or associated to other things, never get upset or bored with someone but find ways of learning about their style, note any culture or group or person you feel negative about or can’t image being and neutralize it.


  1. Food for thought – an interesting a mind boggling post indeed !
    Is it a question of : “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he” ? – Proverbs 23:7
    And is the mind and the heart the same thing ?
    Wishing you a peaceful and thoughtful Easter.

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  2. Welcome to! I hope you will give me a thumbs up to use some TOM stuff on the blog? I like it. Intriguingly, my own awareness of mind goes back to the end of my first year, not the 3 years you mention. Pretty cool. Like a telescope into deep time. There’s gotta be a TOEM, a Theory of Earth Mind, that is corollary. I’m going to think on that further. One thing is for sure, remembering the transfer of thought from pre-literate to literate is something I still haven’t written out, either. Thanks or the inspiration today.

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  3. 👍 ToM is something all normal human will acquire, ToEM is far more culture-based. I imagine a person in an animistic band living on the land will have ToEM quite early on, whereas a city-slicking technology-worshipper may never -or only vaguely so- acquire a proper ToEM. Likewise, awareness of things in general will vary per individual and their socialization factors and experiences. And I look forward to more Okanagan. It’s been a while since I’ve been up in that area.


    1. This seems backward. A person living out in the country with only a hand full of people to interact with would suffer from extreme fear and lack of communication skills. They would not only fear other human minds they would most likely hate them if they were not identical to their own minds.

      A city slicker would be in constant contact with other minds and would ultimately become more empathetic and communicative, existing with reduced levels of fear. They would most likely experience new things daily between cultures and philosophies.

      Where did you come up with your idea?


  4. Tom is interesting but not possible with respect to communicating with other minds. I will concede that it can be used to detect other minds.


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